Most men don’t know what women want. Most women don’t know what women want. Sure, conscious choices are obvious. Things like “I want a man who is fun” and “I would like to date a guy who is confident” are pretty standard. But let’s face it, if every woman’s criteria for choosing her partner were as simple as these examples, we guys wouldn’t really have that much difficulty getting chosen, right? But we do. We really, really do. Most men go through the attraction process and, if they go far enough, they seduce like blind men without sticks or guide dogs. They are forced to feel the whole process, trial and error style. So let’s get to the point: what are the real rules? What do women really care about subconsciously? Here’s the oversight.
To really get to the heart of what happens between men and women when attraction (or repulsion) occurs, it takes a few million years to rewind. I’m serious: the roots of attraction lie in the groundwork laid down by our ancestors: our great, great, great, great … well, you get the idea. First you need to understand what the situation was (and still is). Women produce one egg a month. Men produce about 200 million sperm a day. Things are not balanced and are not nearly the same. Because women only produce one egg a month, they must be very careful with the men they allow to approach them and even more when deciding which boy (or boys) will be the chosen few: the men who come to ‘inseminate’ ‘them. All of this is unconscious behavior. This is not controlled by the conscious mind of the woman (or the man).
So, women are the ones who choose men. They examine them, observe their behavior, assess their status and value, and then make their decision accordingly. But that does not mean that men are powerless in this game. Far from there. You see, in the days of mammoths and saber-toothed tigers (and millions of years before, to be honest) there were two main types of men. The caveman and the knight. Let’s define both. A caveman is a tough and smart guy, playboy style. His goal is to inseminate many different women in a short time. He has the tools to do it – he’s strong, motivated, and a tribal leader. A gentleman is less animal. He is trustworthy, helpful and LOYAL. He is the man you want around your children, but not necessarily the man you want to be the FATHER of your children. do you see the distinction? Women want a strong, high-status male to inseminate them (due to their tough, refined, and prolific genes). But they don’t want to be abandoned after getting pregnant by this guy, because he will inevitably hit another caveman on the head, take his wife, and get her pregnant too. So when they are pregnant, they want the caveman to ‘settle down’, relax, and become a loyal father. But leopards don’t change their spots. True tribal leaders can only be tied down for so long. But women don’t want a loyal man who is there to help and stuff, but is also quite tame and weak. So what do they want? They want a COMMITMENT. A perfect mix between a caveman and a knight. They want a tribal leader with a loyal and trustworthy personality. Fast forward to today, right now, right here. Do women really need a man to raise their children? No. Do you need a tribal leader to beat up your male rivals on your behalf? No. Do you still have the evolutionary programming that makes you want these two things and more? YES. Oh yeah.
So how do you adopt the attitude and aura of a tribal leader and a ‘gentleman’ in this modern age, an age of bars and clubs, parks and parties? A time of equal opportunities between the sexes. You follow a system. You use a formula. You become the man that women see, evaluate and realize is a man that all women see as attractive and that all men respect and admire.