You want to control your boyfriend and you are on the right track, because the first rule of thumb is not to let him know that this is what you are really trying to do. And here are the rest of the steps you need to take …
Let him be in charge …
… or at least let him think it is. Men want to be great, they want to be “the man”. Let it be like that. Allow him to fly and glide, while you are the wind under his wings, the invisible force that directs him.
Be the lady …
… not waiting to be rescued. You are a kind, feminine and pleasant woman on the outside (but tough as a stone on the inside), but you try to lower the tower on your own. What do you think i would do? He would try to be your knight in shining armor and run to your rescue, of course.
Convince him …
… instead of making demands. Don’t try to force him to take off his coat by puffing and puffing because it will hold you tighter. Let the sun be, shining gently on him, and he himself will decide to take off his jacket.
If you tie it with a leash …
… then absolutely make sure you don’t choke on it. Let him play and be with the boys. Give it room to grow. Make your leash very long so he doesn’t know it’s there and only pull it when absolutely necessary.
Don’t bind horns with him …
… because you don’t have any. Only males grow them, you know. So don’t try to argue with him (logic for logic) because he won’t back down. Instead, gently pet him and he’ll bring down his wall of defense.
I appreciate …
… for the things it does for you. When you learn to notice your little efforts to please him (instead of criticizing him for his mistakes), he will be encouraged to do more.
Treat him like a person …
… and not as a doll (in every sense of the word). Show him respect. He will stay with you not only because of how he feels about you, but also because of how you make him feel about himself.
Oh, and remember, he has to do things for you because he is convinced that is what he wants and not because you “manipulate” him into doing it.