Sometimes either partner in a relationship feels stifled and trapped. This is when it is good for that person to get away for a few days to think and make some decisions. Separation is good in some respects because “absence makes the heart warmer.” If your boyfriend disappears for a few days, it could be harmless, or it could mean that he wants to get away from you. Read the tips below to find out what to do if this happens.
Don’t jump to conclusions
It is best to be calm and rational when this happens. Don’t jump to conclusions and imagine the worst. It could only mean that he needed to get away and have his space. Maybe you didn’t realize that you are overly demanding, intimidating, and possessive. Wait for him to come back and be compassionate and understanding.
ask subtle questions
Be positive and do not think that he has left you forever. You could try to find out where he has gone and where. Ask some mutual friends if they know his whereabouts. If you are patient and wait a while, he will most likely contact you himself and let you know.
Be patient and don’t lose hope
You’ll go crazy with worry if you start imagining all sorts of things just because he’s gone for a few days. Be patient and don’t lose hope. Look back at your relationship and see if there was anything unpleasant or uncomfortable for him that went away without letting you know. If you are guilty of something, try to apologize and make things right.
Let’s see if he tells you the truth and then acts
In case you contact him or he comes back after disappearing for a few days, don’t respond in an angry way. Wait for an explanation and try to assess if he is telling you the truth about where he was or not. If you find out that he is lying, you can make a decision about whether or not it is worth continuing the relationship.
Be cool and distant with him.
When he finally does show up, let him know that you’re upset about how he disappeared for a few days without telling you, by being cold and distant towards him. It is useless to behave in the same loving way; flattering him when he hasn’t been considerate enough to let you know he was leaving.
Tell him it’s a good idea to stay away sometimes.
What you can do is agree and let him know that it is a good idea for you to separate for a while and go on a trip for a few days. He may secretly not like the idea of you taking off without him, even though he didn’t think of taking off without you. Pretend you didn’t care and that you’re thinking of doing the same.
Let him know that there are to be no secrets.
One of the best ways to make him realize that he shouldn’t do the disappearing act is to be honest with him and emphasize the fact that there should be no secrets between you. Once you do this, let him know that if for any reason he felt the need to be alone or have his space, you are willing to give it to him.