One of the biggest obstacles in your way of having abundant confidence to pursue what you really want in life is not having anything that you are moving towards that really means something to you.
Very often we are controlled by that heartbreaking fear when we enter a new environment or try a new experience. New social settings can cause a tightness in the chest or a knot in the stomach. Perhaps you feel a lump in your throat when we attend an event held by our children’s school, or the office party that is outside the normal limits of showing up and sitting at the desk. You identify?
Lack of confidence prevents many people from doing so many things that they know they should or simply want to do. The conversation he feels compelled to start, but flinches and walks away. The job you want to seek or the business you really want to start, but you are terrified of being rejected or failing and being criticized by your friends, family or colleagues. The class you want to go to but are afraid that you will be embarrassed or that everyone will judge you because you won’t be able to.
I have also felt the pain and insecurity of low self-esteem and confidence. I remember turning my back on him and walking away from a girl when I was 16 years old. Why? Because she smiled at me and said hello! How could he do such a thing ?! I was terrified. I remember panicking, terrified that if I greeted him back I’d have to think of something funny, charming, and witty to say next. I felt my whole body invaded and frozen with panic and I just turned and walked away without saying a word.
I can look back and laugh now. But that was a real challenge for me 20 years ago and being able to overcome that kind of doubt and lack of confidence has made a huge difference in how I live my life and who I have become.
So what can people do about their low self-confidence? Life seems so overwhelming and challenging when your first thought about anything is always scary, and find out how you can get through the situation that is coming without blushing and becoming shy and uncomfortable. Fortunately, wherever you are now in your confidence levels, there are many wonderful and easy ways to increase and develop your confidence and self-belief.
One of the deepest and most enduring ways to help your confidence grow and be maintained is to be clear about what you really want in your life and to begin, in a pleasant and consistent way, to move towards that.
It seems that, as a society, we have created a way of life in which to get an education, secure a career, get married and have children, buy a house and retire at 60, with a few annual summer holidays and a good car to live on. . traveling the journey in is, in short, a “full and well lived life”.
Now, if you’re doing what makes you light on the inside as a career, bravo! Yet statistics show that up to 84% of those surveyed in the developed world feel unhappy and dissatisfied in the job they have chosen. 84% ?? !! Isn’t that an incredible number?
One of the main reasons people suffer with low confidence is that they get stuck in a rut. They have stopped chasing and moving forward. After a few setbacks, your confidence can hit the downward spiral that pulls you further and further away from your true self, leading you into the abyss of fear, doubt, insecurity, and self-loathing. They have had their spark (that place within them that is real, true, alive and vibrant) quenched and covered. The expectations of the world have been set on them. They have incorporated the ideas of everyone around them about who to be, what to do, how to behave, how to think, where to work, who to spend time with. All of these well-meaning counselors have turned people away from their center, further from the truth in their own hearts. One of the surest ways to lose our confidence is to lose touch with that unique and beautiful spark within each of us.
Therefore, one of the quickest, easiest and most important antidotes to not believing in yourself is to be clear about something you really want, something that illuminates you inside and fills you with excitement and passion and start taking small steps towards that. Now, it doesn’t have to be your life’s work, your big heart-filled mission in this life (although if you know what it is, then focus on that for sure) but it should be something more important to you. than just paying the bills and spending each month tired and noticing one heavy step at a time, always feeling like you’re standing still and never moving forward. Or worse yet, fighting hard but feeling you slowly regress in one or more areas of your life.
Developing your confidence is not just about helping you with quick and simple techniques (although there are many quick and simple techniques that can double or triple your confidence in the blink of an eye), the goal is to help you have an inner transformation that opens you up. a deep and lasting well of confidence, which will open you up to more possibilities than you can imagine right now.
How would it feel to be able to pursue everything you want in life? Every time you see something you would like to try or someone you would like to talk to or an experience you would like to have, how amazing would it feel to have the confidence to do it?
Can you imagine the moments in life that would take on deeper and richer meaning and feelings? Even if your confidence is at an all-time low right now, you can probably relate to this because you almost certainly have had times in your life where it did. You have experienced those moments where you threw caution and fear into the wind and chased after the person or experience you really wanted.
Regardless of the outcome, you have that surge of excitement, joy, and vitality that comes with knowing that you are being true to your heart’s desires and pursuing what matters to you. You will hardly recognize your new you who is thriving and enjoying life, you no longer care what everyone thinks of you, you no longer worry about how you look or sound, you no longer feel that tightness in your chest or stomach when you try take a step forward.
The new you will be someone willing to say yes to almost anything in life. Adventure, joy, frankness, playfulness, passion, excitement and self-confidence will become the usual experience of everyday life. If you are having a hard time imagining this right now, stay with me. I would love to help you if you want to delve into this process and experience even more confidence and enthusiasm as you take control of your life and pursue your dreams.
When this most secure part of you takes control of your life, everything begins to change. As your confidence grows and you begin to pursue the things you have always wanted in life, but never had the confidence to do so, every part of your life begins to grow in response to your feelings about yourself. Your career changes or evolves. People often find promotions and other possibilities more in line with what they really want to start opening up with. Relationships improve or the perfect partner appears. The confidence to start the new business, to rescue the current one or simply double or triple your current earnings, the self-confidence to demand more income for your time from a place of trust and value instead of fear and insecurity.
The weight that people always wanted to shift eventually begins to disappear as they feel better about themselves and make decisions that support their growing self-image, rather than trying to force themselves down the path of the next almost impossible diet without stop feeling bad about yourself inside. .
The emotional habits that we get caught up in, such as anger, resentment, jealousy, overwhelming, depression, anxiety, and any kinds of emotions that we experience in life, start to wane and become healthier emotional habits. that support their growth and development as their confidence increases. You won’t even be recognized a year from now if you decide to start the sacred work of developing your faith in yourself now.
So where do you start? Here and now is probably a good time and place, don’t you agree?
Isn’t it time you gave yourself the gift of deciding what it is that you really want to pursue next? What really matters to you in life? It is not what your society, parents, siblings, partner, children, colleagues or friends expect of you. What do you really care about? For a life-changing in your confidence and belief, tune in to that part of you that really knows who you are and what you want and start taking small but firm steps toward that. You will hardly believe how different your life will look when you really step into that eternal, secure part of you that knows what it really wants.
Give yourself the gift you deserve. Take a step or two in the direction of a dream or goal that matters to you. Keep the steps super small and easy to accomplish and watch your confidence start to grow astronomically.