I’m sure you’ve met some guys who seem to be able to attract women with almost no effort. They can approach and pick up women naturally; they can even easily do that to any female with a male escort. Their very presence can make a difference and women are “magically” attracted to them. Sounds familiar? Yes, they are the so-called alpha males and no; they were not born with that gift. They got it through experiences. You can also learn how to become an alpha male if you know the principles.
If you want to discover how to become an alpha male, this is the first rule: drop the beta male characteristics that have been implanted in you since you were a child. I mean the way most kids think these days; They want the most attractive woman they have ever seen, but they lack the self-confidence to put themselves on the same level as her.
The “you’re so beautiful with so many guys after you and I’m under you” idea is why beta men only get leftover girls. If you are approaching a woman and everything you do (the way you talk, your body language, and the way you treat her) reflects that concept, she will instantly see you as an inferior guy and reject you. In such a case, the best you could do is to become his best ‘friend’. She will talk to you about all her problems but won’t let you go any further.
When all attempts to attract her fail, many guys who don’t know how to become an alpha male will resort to another typical tactic: getting her approval with cash. A bucket of flowers, a high class dinner, become her driver and take her everywhere, buy her jewelry, dresses, bags, etc. These things are likely to backfire on you; she will think you are manipulating her and trying to buy her or entice her with cash.
Remember this: DO NOT buy a girl something expensive except when she has done something to deserve it. Picture yourself as an alpha male where you don’t seek her approval from her, but already enjoy a life where she misses out if he doesn’t want to be a part of her.
The second rule on how to become an alpha male is to never fall into the “boring guy” category. Yes, you may enjoy trading stocks, but there is no reason to discuss how the latest policy affects your stocks and the like. Save them for your friend or you’ll end up being one of the guys who talks to himself while his girl talks to someone else on the cell phone.
Being interested is good and women really like a man who has “life” and passion for his work. However, girls need excitement in conversation; Discuss her interest but skip all logical description and engage her in the conversation by asking for her opinion on various topics.
Physical contact is a way to keep your woman excited. The iron rule here is to refrain from asking her permission to do so. Yeah, don’t ask “can I kiss you” and stuff like that. It will kill the mood immediately; PERIOD.
By asking for her consent, you put her in a difficult situation; if she says “yes”, she is afraid of being seen as a whore, so it is “safer” to say “no”. Instead of looking for verbal permission, an alpha male will look for cues in his body language and strike at the right moment; this applies to kissing, touching and even having sex.