Men can be so confusing. If the two of you have broken up and are still playing, it can be very hard on your heart. Not knowing what he wants when you are crystal clear about the fact that you want him back is heartbreaking. No one can expect you to wait forever while he makes a decision about what the future holds. You have a right to know what is going on before you completely break down emotionally. If he is hesitant to get back together or not, make the most of it. In fact, you can use his indecisiveness to draw him to you.
If your ex boyfriend doesn’t know what he wants, don’t let him control your future. If you tell him that you will patiently wait until he makes up his mind, you are setting yourself up for some deep emotional torture. The moment a man realizes that a woman wants him more than anything, he will make her wait. She will drag him out for as long as possible just to test her devotion to him. A man’s ego explodes if a woman endlessly chases him hoping she will give him another chance. Don’t put yourself in this position with your ex. If you already made the mistake of telling him that you will be his if he loves you, don’t say it again.
You have the right to have the future you want. You’re not going to get that with your ex waiting for it. You have to make him chase you and it’s actually relatively easy to make that happen. The best thing you can do for yourself right now is to leave your boyfriend completely. You are sitting in a holding pattern until he gets his act together and realizes that you are an amazing woman and the ideal match for him. You have to get out of that equation so that he sees and feels that it is not completely and solely up to him to determine if you two get back together.
The best advice you can take right now is to focus more on your own life and the things you enjoy that don’t include your ex. Instead of spending an entire night reading old emails, go out with your friends to a nice restaurant. If you have been concentrating on calling him, turn off your phone and go to the gym. These next few weeks should be about you and not about him.
Your ex boyfriend will soon realize what he wants if you are no longer waiting to accept it. The silent threat of you disappearing from his life is enough to make him see that a future without you is filled with emptiness and loneliness. Just getting out of his life for a few weeks will accomplish more than trying to talk to him all day, every day.