‘A little rain should fall on everyone’s life’, goes the old saying. And if anyone ever finds themselves at odds with their spouse, then the services of a divorce attorney are absolutely essential. The professional divorce attorney will be well versed in all aspects of family law and will guide their client through the process as smoothly as possible.
Many couples will not realize that there is more to separating than just dividing personal belongings. There are many other things to consider. Children, obviously, should always be the first consideration. Your comfort, safety and well-being should always be at the top of any ‘to do’ list. Things like visitation arrangements, school fees, and anything else that transitions to a single-parent family is what’s important.
Of course, many couples will not always agree on who is the sole custodian of the children. Nor will they agree on visiting days and hours, etc. This is where the professionals come in and they will likely discuss these emotional issues before the court gets involved. However, if an agreement cannot be reached, the court will decide who is the best parent to take custody of the children. The court will also decide on visitation periods and rights, whether the noncustodial partner is suitable for visitation, etc.
In some cases, one partner may have been violent or disruptive in the relationship. In this case, supervised visitation is a possibility until the parent can show that there is no apparent inappropriate behavior, and then he can go back to court to have the supervision order lifted.
Sometimes one partner doesn’t want the children, either for personal reasons or simply because they think the other partner would be the best person to take care of the children. This is fine as long as the children are not made to feel unloved. However, in many cases, parents use children as a kind of weapon or bargaining chip to get what they want from the separation. Lies will be told, evidence will be fabricated, in fact anything that casts a bad light on the other will come to light and now is when professionals are needed to intervene between the warring factions.
The court is not here to be an adviser and they will only have the law to offer any type of solution to the contract. They will decide who gets what, who pays what, etc. and where the children will reside. If the two within the couple are so angry with each other that the judge feels the children cannot be with either party, then they will be placed in care until the couple can be counseled and monitored until the best one is chosen.
This can be a difficult time for everyone involved and special care should be taken when there are children. But remember, the sun will return!