When people reach the end of their emotional and psychological rope, they invariably ask if their marriage is worth saving. Ironically, they already intuitively know that they must save their marriage; they just don’t know how. I’ve never met anyone (which is not to say there isn’t one) who got married with the idea of ending their marriage at some point in the future. People marry to live happily ever after. Why are there so few who do?
We live in a very confused society.
Everyone complains about dishonesty.
Even the ones who sneak into movies without paying.
Everyone complains about corrupt politicians.
Even those who take advantage of their situational power.
No one is considered a liar.
Not even those who cheat on income tax.
They all think their marriage will work.
Even though the divorce rate is staggering.
The idea of saving your marriage is great. The problem should create a wake-up call that prompts you to investigate everything and everywhere until you find a solution to your marital problems. Meanwhile, never give up on having a very happy marriage. You can save your marriage despite the flaws you find in your spouse or in yourself; That is a fact. Do you think that God is cruel enough to create marriage as a way to find suffering? Can you imagine God being cruel enough to create marriage only for those who are perfect? I did not believe it and so I searched and discovered everything necessary to create or fix the marriage; and you can too.
There are a number of good reasons to save your marriage:
1) Your children
Your children are not possessions. They came into your life as a blessing and a responsibility. The very foundation of a child consists of a united mother and father. Do not imagine that your children will be fine if you do not save your marriage. Don’t believe the lies that society presents to rationalize “divorce on demand.”
2) Your future success
When you took your wedding vows, they reflected the most serious commitment of your life: to your spouse and to yourself. Giving up is contrary to the laws of success.
3) Our society
Families are the unit of measurement of any society. There has been a tremendous transformation in our society as a result of the high divorce rate. There is no reasonable substitution for a family-based social order. Each individual is more important when he is part of a family society. The obvious insecurities and fears that suffocate our country are the logical result of divorce.
If your marriage is having problems, there are clear reasons, rarely the ones that are on the surface. Like anything else, marriage has a natural structure that must be supported by correct behaviors. I have gone into great detail in my book Lessons for a Happy Marriage so that anyone can understand what it takes to save a marriage, no matter how dire it may seem. Don’t give up and don’t get demoralized if your current state is one of pain and suffering. You and your spouse deserve what God has created for you to enjoy.