Mistakes are made. You jump to conclusions. You overreact. You say things you don’t really mean. A fight breaks out. He explodes. He leaves and slams the door. C’est fini.
When your man leaves you by slamming the door in your face, what can you do to reconnect with him when you desperately want him back? Heated spur of the moment arguments can be devastating to a relationship, even if they’re the result of miscommunication or stupid things that aren’t really important.
First, remember that you have to consider what your man wants. At this point, you are probably angry and don’t know for sure. Just because you want to get him back doesn’t mean he’s ready to get you back.
Before you can get your ex boyfriend back, you have to find the courage and strength to accept being alone if that’s what happens. Accepting that you will be fine with or without him will allow you to relax and take rational steps to win him back. If you let despair and despair get the better of you, you will most likely act in a way that will push him further away.
Find out what went wrong in the relationship. Was the fight over something stupid? Did you misunderstand or jump to conclusions before you got the whole story? Are there control issues in the relationship? Are your needs or those of your boyfriend not being met? Reconnecting with your ex won’t do any good if you can’t identify and address the problems in your relationship.
Next, don’t let emotions control your actions. Men are extremely uncomfortable around emotional women. That feeling of discomfort makes them want to run.
If you let your emotions get the better of your ex boyfriend in the form of text messages, phone calls, going to see him, apologizing, begging, doing him favors, etc. every time you miss him, you will only prevent him from coming back to you.
When your man slams the door and leaves you, let him go. Don’t chase him. Don’t push it. Give him time away from you. You have to allow him to miss you.
Time and space not only allow you to calm down and figure out what you want, but also give you time to calm down and not make rash decisions that could be fatal to your relationship.