This is probably the most discussed topic but the most important topic. I was training this student last night. He told me that he was very afraid to approach women and in his mind he can’t attract beautiful women. I asked him to write a list of the things that he is afraid of. When we discussed that list, it was obvious that his fears were nothing more than excuses. In fact, for a long time I also labeled my excuses as fears. But now I know that most of your fears are mere excuses or myths and if you don’t make an effort to face them you will spend most of your life suffering. So once again I am listing some of these excuses here from my book “Social Mastery”. I hope you will read them and commit to throwing away your excuses, taking action and getting closer to these beautiful women. Make a promise right now to approach two women today after reading this post.
Here are some excuses or internal conflicts that prevent us from taking the step:
1. I am not handsome.
Most men are not handsome and most women are more attracted to personality than appearance. In fact, good looks for men come with their own set of challenges. They present themselves as players and women do not trust them. I can’t tell you how often I have to lower my value when I’m not even handsome. If you display qualities that women are attracted to, nothing else matters. Remember Seal marrying Heidi Klum! Need I say more? So you know that there are other factors than appearance that can lead you to the Woman. In fact, these other factors are what lead you to the woman MOST of the time.
2. Everyone will laugh at me when they reject me.
Only if you act rejected. No one knows you got turned down unless you leave the set crushed. When a set ends or you get turned down, be a man, smile, shake hands and say it was nice talking to you anyway, have fun and walk away with a smile on your face. Also, women are usually very polite when they reject you. And if they do, IT’S NOT BIG! Everyone, including me, is rejected.
3. She probably has a boyfriend.
Probably yes, probably no! And it doesn’t mean anything. She could be dating him to get that role she’s been dying to get or because she hasn’t met anyone like you yet, but she doesn’t want to seem like a loser for being single. She could publish an entire book with stories of women leaving their boyfriends and husbands for someone else.
4. That boy is probably her boyfriend.
The only way to find out is to get close to her. If he’s her boyfriend, he won’t kill you. Remember, 8 out of 10 times the guy will be her friend because women don’t go out alone and they feel safer with a guy to avoid losers getting close to them. In fact, approaching a woman who is with boys increases your value. You have to be a brave and confident guy to be able to do that.
Recently, I was with a student. I’m sorry opening a set on the dance floor. This woman was with three guys. I was at a distance when she opened the set. Five minutes later I saw him surrounded by three guys and I thought he needed help. I walk onto the set and find out that these three guys are traveling from Europe and that woman was with them. In a short time, they had become good friends with my student and also ended up telling him that she was single and that he should take the plunge. Now I have to admit that if I had known from the beginning that she was with three guys, I probably wouldn’t have sent this student to open her up, this being his first time in the field, but then I would have done her a big disservice. favor. . Valuable lesson learned! Go open and don’t worry about the dynamics. Let it unfold! You’ll be surprised!
5. She will think less of me if I get close to her. I’ll lose courage by getting close to her.
On the contrary. She will have more respect for you for approaching her than for not approaching her. After all, they themselves go out to meet men. Once I was recording live in a bar. A group of women approached me. We had a discussion about this and they agreed that they would prefer the men to come up to them rather than not come up to them. In fact, can you imagine how crushed they will be if no one approaches them! You are only respecting them by approaching them. They know it and will only confess it to unsuspecting men.
6. He saw me with another girl.
Congratulations! You have a very high value in their eyes! Women love a man that other women love too. That’s why all rock stars have sex all the time. In fact, you will lose value if you don’t flirt with other women. One of my ex-girlfriends confessed that she always let her boyfriend flirt with other women because it increased his confidence and her jealousy level, resulting in great sex. No need to apologize for being sexual!
7. I don’t have much to say.
Not after reading my book “Social Dominance” and doing the exercises I ask you to do! You will have enough material to use. And if not, you will create it while it is in action. Start the conversation high-energy and watch the magic unfold. Your high energy will automatically steer the conversation in the right direction.
8. She is sitting in the corner by the wall.
Good news: seduction will be easy. You don’t have to look for a secluded corner and this will also ensure less distraction. Also, if she’s sitting in a corner, she’s probably shy, so you’ll need to talk more at first. It also means that she hasn’t gotten too close to him that night. It also means that she will thank you for helping her have fun or she would have been bored all night. I can’t stress it louder than this: WOMEN ARE DYING FOR YOU TO CLOSE TO THEM! THEY WANT THE SAME THING YOU DO! So be a man and seduce her. She will thank you!
9. I’m not in the mood.
Great, go and talk to her to get out of the gloomy mood you’re stuck in. And for God’s sake, stop making those damn excuses!
10. I will start tomorrow.
There’s no tomorrow! Back when she went to school in New Jersey, she lived in a row house. We were four boys and four girls in the house. I was very attracted to a girl and at first she was also attracted to me. One night there was an elderly party. She asked me if she was coming and “wasn’t in the mood”. There was a tomorrow to seduce her. My roommate ended up doing the move on her while partying with her. I was mad all night listening to him have sex with her. AND REMEMBER THAT TOMORROW YOU WILL SAY AGAIN “TOMORROW I WILL START!”
I can only give you advice, I can’t force you to go and do what you’re supposed to do. Do you need motivation? The sooner you start your journey, the sooner you will arrive at your destination. Everything else can wait!
RULES:
From now on, whenever you have an excuse why you shouldn’t approach the woman, you should approach her just to prove to yourself that you weren’t making an excuse.
Good luck and be happy!