Number one on the list of phone call rules for women is to keep in mind that men don’t view phone calls the same way women do. Women love to be in contact with a man who interests them, some men feel the same, but most do not.
It is rare to find a man who finds long or frequent calls attractive. I know this because all the men I have been dating and have an interest in show exactly the same attitude. phone calls and text messages.
They will only take your period of time. Don’t be discouraged if a day or two pass and you don’t hear from the man in your life.
I have three rules regarding calling a man you are dating until you become exclusive or until you are sure of his position regarding his feelings towards you and your relationship and his opinion on talking on the phone:
1. Don’t call him.
2. Don’t call him.
3. Don’t call him.
You have no reason to call him. None. Of course, there are times when you may need to call like in emergency situations and no one else is available to help you. Either you are expecting me to call you or you want me to call you from time to time (which means from time to time). Or you are on your way to meet him and need a quick confirmation of something. Other than that, he knows where to find you when he wants to talk.
Men take phone calls and text messages seriously. They use your behavior regarding these things to make certain assumptions about you. For example, if you constantly call the men you date and don’t wait for them to make the first move, some of those men will label you as too aggressive and maybe even bordering on desperation.
There are three reasons why you should not initiate the call:
1. Most men talk a lot less than we do and are generally not very good at multitasking. So when you call out of nowhere and he’s in the middle of something, he might ignore the call and find it an annoyance or he might answer, but it won’t be a positive, feel-good experience (because he has to interrupt you, he’s distracted, etc. ..).
2. When you initiate calls, you are confident that you are in the position / mood to speak, and as such, it gives you the positive connection experience you want.
3. You don’t want to create a precedence that you are the one initiating all the contacts all the time and he never does. When a man feels that you will get the job done anyway, he will stop making the efforts and in the process he feels that you are in charge and his focus of attraction is somewhat off now.
Remember, men want to chase you, not the other way around. You can say, “But this is 2011!” It’s true, other than that they haven’t evolved much since 1911, 1811, or even 1511.
You must always remember that men and women view phone calls, emails, and text messages very differently. If you make the mistake of calling too often, at the wrong time, or before you’re ready to hear from you, you can disconnect it. Every woman should know everything about calling men if she wants to stay in control of her relationship. Women unknowingly ruin their chances of a future with a man because they are too eager to hear from him. Don’t let this happen to you.