Have you ever gone to the bank to buy a pepper? How does that sound? Isn’t it interesting to know if some people do that when they are hungry? I guess the hunger gets so bad that they are no longer aware of their sanity. What am I saying? That’s what we do when we’re waiting for a life partner. Don’t go to the wrong places to get one. And don’t be evil to get an innocent lady from a good record when you know you are evil and don’t mind changing your way of life. There is always a pay day. Please don’t hurt people by playing on their emotions and then suffering them. Do not jump on the bandwagon because you are sure that you can find guys or girls who will be easily ‘seduced’ and who are ‘sexy’. It will take only a few weeks, months after the marriage to get the dust off your face. I have seen people with such a challenge.
In the search stage, about 5% seem to know what they want. Many judge it by “I’m praying and I hope it works out.” It is not based on any principle or character. At one point, it seems like they know what they want just because they’re looking from the angle of a guy or girl who caught their eye. At that moment, that girl or boy becomes the perfect image. The next moment, it may be that it didn’t really work, they aim for another goal: never having a purpose; but surely they have not succeeded. This often leads to people ending up in the wrong relationships.
What do you want in a guy or a lady? Many of those who only want a lover in the context of sex have been missing out from the start. This is because marriage is more than 80% more than sex. If you only focus on less than 5-20% of your time, how can you make a great marriage?
Some people feel some kind of pressure at this stage. But you should know that it won’t help much to give up your values just to get a partner because you may have to lose them forever, and this may not become apparent until a few months or years into the relationship.
For those who want a peaceful and modest relationship, it is advisable to avoid pornography. You act on your mind. Pornography creates a false image that can damage your silent thinking long after you’re married. You may never be satisfied with a partner. Beware. What you see, what you hear, the friends you follow or talk to, the way of communication you engage in all play a role while you wait for MR. RIGHT. Capitalization is a sign of respect for you if you can do just that, and it’s not that hard. People often miss it because they look the wrong way and often judge by material possessions.
There is an endless list of artists who have broken marriages and many who maintain polygamy; not because they planned it that way from the beginning but because they missed it and got into more trouble to correct it. Have you ever considered why this happens? Some started with good intentions with a straight eye. But the passion and romance involved were irresistible. In lonely places with the crew and many couples, they begin to allow the false imagination to seem real. Body chemistry overrides their correct sense of judgment and all they start to see and say is, ‘the guy’s good, nice enough.’ I just want it. He is quite handsome and charming. That’s it, I just love it’. And the deal is closed. Six months to two or four years later, their break makes the tabloids. You won’t be like that.
A proverb says: “Warn the apprentice hunter not to follow the path of the stream to avoid the sudden attack of a lion. Remind him: obedience is better than sacrifice.”